Now Sarai, Abram’s wife, had borne him no children. But she had an Egyptian slave named Hagar; 2 so she said to Abram, “The Lord has kept me from having children. Go, sleep with my slave; perhaps I can build a family through her.” (Read the rest of the chapter here!)
Volumes have been written on these two women. Volumes. This older US News article provides a good summary of some of the major themes and subjects that continue to attract us to this story, some of which include the similarities between Hagar’s story and the female African-American experience during slavery, and the origin of Islamic and Judeo-Christian tensions.
Coming at it from a decidedly feminist-revisionist standpoint (yes, I can totally admit that bias), the most interesting theory I’ve read while researching this chapter is that the writer was just as concerned with propping up male superiority and the patriarchal system as he was with illuminating the divine supremacy of God. Again, according to the US News article, by illustrating that God, then considered male, has the ability to control female fertility, the author has established male superiority over the very female power of child-bearing.
I don’t want to come across as cynical, but I do wonder how much of this story was written to make Abram look good at the expense of Sarai and Hagar. There are many examples of polygamy in the Old Testament, but it’s generally accepted that the belief was polygamy was not meant to be the moral ideal – remember Lamech lusting after both Adah and Zillah? Sarai offering Hagar to Abram is reminiscent of Eve offering Adam the apple. Here is something tempting (a young girl, a delicious fruit) that will bring about something desired (an heir, knowledge) that the weaker woman (Sarai, Eve) offers to the apparently blameless or at the very least coerced man (Abram, Adam). As to this male inculpability, Abram is often depicted in art history with his hand extended palm up while Sarai brings him Hagar, a symbol of rejecting responsibility or designating innocence. But he still sleeps with Hagar…so how is he innocent of impatience and faithlessness while Sarai is guilty of being so? I just have a hard time holding only Sarai responsible for deciding Abram better sleep with Hagar, especially if so many other parts of this story are written to reinforce male dominance. I can’t imagine the anguish Sarai was going through experiencing infertility for so long, especially in a time when fertility was kind of your defining trait as a woman. That just doesn’t seem like the mindset that would arrive at a decision of “oh, yes, let this other beautiful, fertile woman sleep with my husband instead.” I don’t believe Sarai was blameless, because that would be reductive in the other direction, but I do think she’s been given too much of the blame.
Also, if Abram was (at least partially) more responsible for deciding to sleep with Hagar than the writing of this story would lead us to believe, it would help explain the animosity between these two women a little more, and why Sarai mistreated the pregnant Hagar (16:6) and why in a few chapters she is insistent upon Hagar and Ismael being sent into the desert.
Really, the more I write about it the sadder I become. They both became mothers of nations, but how fraught both these women’s lives were. Hagar literally needs an angel to lift her out of her despair in this chapter. It sounds like Sarai has reached a breaking point, herself. The only thing I can say is – Ladies, let it be a reminder that we need to work cooperatively. Gentlemen (and everyone else!) you can totally get in on this, too. Let us not be jealous of each other’s successes, or gloat over each other’s short-comings. Let us work to uplift each other. We have generations of embedded male superiority to overcome still, as was made abundantly clear by the recent Bret Kavanaugh/Christine Blasey Ford Senate hearings, MeToo movement, and other news stories of the past year.
So yes, maybe I am a little sad and a little cynical this morning. But I’m going to channel that anger into productive change in Jesus’ name, and I hope you will, too. A quick Google search of “how to empower women” or “how to promote gender equality” comes back with some great ideas. Below, in no particular order, are a few of my favorite, and I hope you’ll be moved to participate in some of them:
- Support New Moms – This can be anything from locally to globally. The wonderful ladies at my church in Charlottesville set up a meal train for me when Betty was born, and I didn’t have to cook for a month. It. Was. Amazing. Reach out to moms of newborns, if they are in your community. You can also support moms in developing countries through programs like the White Ribbon Alliance and the International Women’s Health Coalition, among others.
- Support Female Entrepreneurs – shop female-owned businesses, mentor female entrepreneurs and would-be entrepreneurs, or just provide encouragement and positivity to women and girls with an entrepreneurial spirit.
- Encourage young girls in school, particularly in STEM programs – girls are super smart, but we’re not always taught to value that. Mentoring a girl you know, or one through a program like Big Brothers, Big Sisters goes a long way towards building a girl’s confidence to do well in school. Additionally, you can support female education worldwide through organizations like the Campaign for Female Education.
- Speak up – speak up when you see sexism at work. Speak up for the rights of other gender minorities (aka trans or non-binary peoples), because we are stronger together. Speak with your vote and elect female candidates and candidates that are committed to furthering gender equality.
- Keep talking. I’d love to hear some other ways you all have supported the women in your lives (or how someone has supported you) – whether it’s an anecdotal story of person-to-person support, or an organization you think is doing good work, or whatever! I look forward to hearing them.
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