5 “The lamp of a wicked man is snuffed out;
the flame of his fire stops burning.
6 The light in his tent becomes dark;
the lamp beside him goes out.
(Read the rest of the chapter, here.)
Sometimes, wicked men do prosper
Bildad fully shows his willful ignorance here. We all know that the “bad guy” doesn’t always get his comeuppance, that very often the wicked do prosper while the good and innocent do fail. I don’t know why this is, but it is undeniably a part of life today, and I’m sure there were examples of this back in Job and Bildad’s time as well.
To wrestle with why God allows wicked men to prosper is going to take more than one blog post. I have no clear answer and it is one of the biggest challenges I face in remaining faithful. In my post on Destiny vs. Free Will, I shared my thoughts on God creating a framework within which we can make our own choices. It’s like children being contained on a playground or an artist painting wet-into-wet in watercolor: there’s a basic structure within which all actions are contained, but what exactly is going to happen is spontaneous. Perhaps, then, the wicked prospering is like the bully on the playground, or making a bold brush-stroke that bleeds into a more delicate element of the painting. Neither of these are perfect examples because it implies God isn’t looking or God makes mistakes, and I, personally, don’t believe that can be true if God does exist. Like I said, this is something that challenges me.
Don’t be a Bildad
What I do know, however, is that Bildad’s response is about as useless as can be. He meets Job’s hurt with anger, then offers empty platitudes and turn a blind eye to the realities in the world. Basically, Bildad is gaslighting Job. (Gaslighting is when you pyschologically manipulate someone into questioning their own sanity. There are some subtle and many appalling examples if you do an online search.)
Don’t be a Bildad. It can be hard not to get defensive, but if you are in a situation where someone becomes angry about something you feel doesn’t apply to you (institutional racism or sexism, xenophobia, bullying…) please resist the urge to deny or to argue. Just because you don’t do something doesn’t mean it never happens. Recognizing someone’s hurt is the first step in healing. It can be humbling, and even awkward, to listen to someone enumerate the ways in which they have been wronged and realize that maybe you were actually part of the problem. But even if you truly weren’t, you may learn something you didn’t know before, and be able to spot – and stop – gaslighting the next time it happens near you (or to you!).
Bildad doesn’t know the big picture, and is speaking out of arrogance and ignorance. If he did, I bet he would be a lot more consoling to Job. And truly, isn’t it best to err on the side of love? Even if Job was in the wrong, I don’t think God would have held it against Bildad for trying to offer him comfort. I know that’s something I could do a better job of remembering in my own daily interactions. Sadly, I expect that as the election season (and vitriolic rhetoric) ramps up alongside the spread of the corona pandemic, we will see more examples of biases coming out: more discrimination against anyone who looks even vaguely Chinese, wariness of foreigners in general, and possible old racial stereotypes of non-whites being “dirty” and, in certain minds, more likely to spread infection. BIPOC, or anyone that looks like they belong to those groups, are going to be facing a lot in the coming months. If somebody comes to you with a story of discrimination, please believe them. Do not turn a blind eye to the injustices of the world, as Bildad does. To listen is to err on the side of love, and we’ll need a lot of that this year.
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