1 Blessed is the one
whose transgressions are forgiven,
whose sins are covered.
2 Blessed is the one
whose sin the Lord does not count against them
and in whose spirit is no deceit.
3 When I kept silent,
my bones wasted away
through my groaning all day long.
4 For day and night
your hand was heavy on me;
my strength was sapped
as in the heat of summer.
5 Then I acknowledged my sin to you
and did not cover up my iniquity.
I said, “I will confess
my transgressions to the Lord.”
And you forgave
the guilt of my sin.
6 Therefore let all the faithful pray to you
while you may be found;
surely the rising of the mighty waters
will not reach them.
7 You are my hiding place;
you will protect me from trouble
and surround me with songs of deliverance.
8 I will instruct you and teach you in the way you should go;
I will counsel you with my loving eye on you.
9 Do not be like the horse or the mule,
which have no understanding
but must be controlled by bit and bridle
or they will not come to you.
10 Many are the woes of the wicked,
but the Lord’s unfailing love
surrounds the one who trusts in him.
11 Rejoice in the Lord and be glad, you righteous;
sing, all you who are upright in heart!
Lent seems like a good time to have a discussion about sin, since we’re supposed to be doing a little spiritual cleansing in preparation for Jesus’ return. But what, exactly, is sin? I want to make absolutely clear that this is just my own opinion. I’ve done a lot of thinking about it, a little praying about it, and minimal reading about it, other than Bible passages such as this one. All that being said, let me give you my ideas on sin, repentance, and forgiveness:
In order to discuss sin, I think we first need to (re)establish what I see as the greatest purpose, the greatest commandment asked of Christians. And that is unconditional love for each other. In John 13:34 Jesus says “A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. By this all men will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.” I think all other commandments stem from this basic principle of love. Resting on the Sabbath? That is self-care, and when we take care of ourselves we can better care for others. Honor thy mother and father? Just another way of saying show filial love and respect.
So what is sin, then? It is a failure to love one another to the best of our ability. So yes, we are all sinners, because we all fall short in that. Personally, I fall short when I get frustrated with the kids, when I speak out of annoyance to my husband or parents, when I buy clothes without knowing where they’re made (because they could potentially come from unsafe or underpaid workers), when I don’t recycle (because poisoning the world with plastic is not an act of love for future generations). As a society we fall short when we don’t welcome refugees clamoring for help, when we turn a blind eye to the harm we are doing to the earth that future generations will inherit, and when we deny the basic humanity of someone based on their skin color or because they pray differently than us.
So how do we repent, how do we change our ways? It can seem futile, at first – one person cannot stop the all wars, pollution, and hate that is rampant in the world. And even on a smaller level, we know that we ourselves can’t promise to never get frustrated, never get tired, and never give into less than loving impulses. So what is even the point? Let’s return to the parenting analogy I’m so fond of. I want my girls to be the best they can be. Just this week Marienne seems to be getting the point of “please” and Betty has been super helpful, cleaning up her playdough and putting her boots away. My heart bursts with pride at these little accomplishments, and I do all I can to encourage that sort of behavior. However, they also just today fought over a toy fish and had a hair pulling moment at the rice table. I corrected them (redirecting for the hair pulling and a “reset,” which is like a pre-timeout, for the fish). I was not pleased with that behavior, but that doesn’t mean I’ve stopped loving them, or that I don’t think they’re capable of more good moments. And that is how I think God must view us. Of course Xe is going to get angry at us making a mess of the beautiful earth he has given us, for fighting with and oppressing our brothers and sisters. Xe may even punish us for it. But that doesn’t mean God doesn’t love us, and think us capable of good. Nothing melts my heart more than Betty’s little “sowwy, Mommy.” That’s all we have to do, too. Turn to God with a heart-felt apology, a vow to do better, and we are forgiven. Yes, we will mess up, we will “sin,” if you will, but that’s only part of being human. Xe expects that. But we can do well by God by earnestly trying to be better.
I admit – acting out of love seems simple, but it can get murky. There’s lots of different ideas of what is good or bad. I probably let me two year old do more things than some parents (play outside under minimal supervision, taste the dog food, wear lipstick on her eyebrows) because I think that it’s a safe way to let her learn and grow. I probably also let my two year old do less things than some parents (I’m still terrified of her eating nuts and lollipops, and I still can’t let her cry it out for more than a few minutes at night). Am I a “bad” parent for sometimes too lenient or sometimes overprotective? Some might argue I am, even though I think I’m acting from a place of love. Scale that difference of opinion up to larger debates like deciding to go to war (are we really promoting democracy or are we propping up an oil friendly regime?), or climate change (are we hurting small business owners by imposing stricter environmental standards?) and you’ll find good people on every side of those opinions. The important thing is to really search your heart and examine your actions, and if you find you are acting out of greed, distrust, or even laziness instead of love, then it may be time to change your course.
So to recap: the greatest commandment is to love one another. The greatest sin is to act out of not-love. We can strive to act out of love all the time, but, being human, we will fail in that from time to time. But God loves us with a love stronger and more pure than anything we can ever know, and because of that, no sin is beyond Xyr forgiveness. It’s not a free pass – we need to keep trying to be better and not repeating our mistakes, just like my girls will keep getting time outs each time they bite each other. But they will also be forgiven afterwards, and we, too, can always turn to God with a contrite heart, ready to be forgiven and start fresh. Going into Holy Week, the last week of Lent, I encourage you to stop and examine your heart. Is there anything that’s been bothering you lately? If so, I encourage you to pray. Pray to God for forgiveness, if you feel you need it, and pray that Xe will show you the path of love, and pray for the strength of spirit to follow it. And then keep doing that any time you feel you stray, come up short, or “sin.” God will always, always welcome you back, because God’s love is greater than any sin.